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Monday, July 25 2016
If you are not an avid wedding goer you may not be aware of “proper wedding guest etiquette”. With so many do's and don’ts, it can be hard to keep track of everything going on as a wedding guest. And you may have heard there are certain things you can and cannot do as a guest to a wedding. Check out these common wedding guests myths that are really more fiction than fact.
Don’t wear Black to a Wedding
It is often a misconception that black is only to be worn for somber occasions like funerals and should not be worn during joyous occasions such as weddings, but this is simply not true. Go ahead and wear your favorite little black dress to the wedding. In fact black works great for everything from winter or evening weddings, to black tie affairs.
You Always Get a Plus One
Just because you received an invitation to the wedding don’t assume you have also received a plus one. Unless your wedding invitation specifically includes a phrase like “and guest” don’t assume you are free to bring a date. Many times couples have to work within limitations when it comes to their guest list so you don’t want to be the guest who brings an uninvited tag along.
You Don’t Have To Send the RSVP
This myth is almost never true, even if you are sure the bride and groom know you will be attending the wedding you still need to fill out the RSVP card and send it back to them before the requested date. The RSVP card has important information on it that the couple needs to provide to the venue. Remember you’re not the only one invited, the couple will have to keep track of all their guests, so do them a favor and make sure to send back your RSVP.
The Couple is Responsible for Your Accommodations
If you are traveling to a wedding from far away you will have to make travel accommodation on your own. Although many couples will reserve a block of hotel rooms to help get a better rate for their out-of-town guests, don’t expect them to foot the bill. No matter how far away you are traveling the couple isn’t required to pay for your hotel. If you are unsure where to stay you can always ask the bridal party for recommendations.
You should always go to the couple for wedding-related questions
This one is a big no-no especially on the day of the wedding. Don’t assume that the bride and groom should be your first stop for all your wedding day questions just because it is their wedding, they will have enough to deal with. Try asking your wedding related questions to the bridesmaids or groomsmen you can even try the parents of bride or groom before turning to them for answers.
Shopping from the registry is impersonal
Many times guests feel that shopping from the registry is impersonal and they want to show how much they know the bride or groom by buying the couple a gift that they have not registered for. The registry is there for a reason, the couple has chosen these items because they are either things they need for their home or they are gifts they want. If you still want to add a personal touch to your wedding gift try adding a note explaining why you chose that gift.